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Work From Home: Breastfeeding in the New Normal

By BMSG Editorial Team

Working from home (WFH) may sound like the perfect arrangement for breastfeeding mothers and their babies but it is not without challenges. With no end in sight for the pandemic, WFH may be here to stay for a long time to come. We speak with some breastfeeding mothers who have been WFH for a while now to find out just what it is like juggling a breastfeed baby and work deadlines at home.

Breastfeeding mothers may find it challenging to WFH but it may be staying for awhile. [Stock Photo]

The Baby Who Won’t Take Bottles

Not everyone is able to send their babies to childcare or find external help. For such mothers, there is no choice but to be at home with their babies. For Priya, who works in the professional training and education industry, nursing her baby has become the norm in between meetings and work demands. “My baby doesn’t take a bottle so I have to excuse myself from work to nurse him, which can be very time consuming,” said the mother of one. Priya’s mother cares for her baby while she works but she added that it is especially challenging when she has meetings to attend and her baby needs to nurse. “I (find it) really challenging to explain that to my colleagues so it’s a struggle,” she added.

Switching Between Bottles & Latching

But not all babies who are cared for at home struggle with switching between bottle and latching. Fadillah A. Rahman, an Assistant Manager in the education sector, works at her mother’s home on most days while grandma cares for her nine month-old baby. The extra help that she gets by working at her mother’s home was a vast improvement over the Circuit Breaker period where she received no help in caring for a very young infant, especially when her baby was much younger then and nursing more frequently. “My baby directly latches unless I have meetings or have to go to the office but he has no issues with taking the bottle now even when I am around,” said Fadillah. “As I am quite familiar with baby’s feeding times, I will take him in to nurse. Otherwise, my mum will bring him to me,” Fadillah added.

Similarly, Jia Qi, who does project management in the IT industry, still latches her 17 month-old throughout the day. “I plan my days in advance although at times, there may be sudden issues that arise or meetings to attend,” she added. She works when her baby naps or when her daughter is able to play independently on her own. “When she is fussy, I will turn to babywearing while working.”

Babies who latch may not want to always switch to a bottle when mummy has to work. So mums and family members may have to work around things. [Stock Photo]

Turning to Alternative Feeding Methods

For Nancy Lai, an adjunct trainer and lecturer, switching to a fully WFH arrangement has been a blessing and she is able to directly latch her baby most of the time in between her lectures. If her baby needs to feed at a time when she is unavailable, her family will try the bottle. However, it is a struggle to bottle-feed her baby because of her presence at home. More recently, her family members have been open to using alternative methods of feeding baby. “My helper and mother care for my baby during my working hours. Sometimes, when my baby fusses over the bottle, they will painstakingly feed my baby with a cup and straw,” says Nancy, who also manages a start-up on the sidelines. Nancy will still need to pump milk when her baby takes the bottle while working or during meetings: “If necessary, I will express milk under a nursing cover while I deliver my lessons or when I have to attend online meetings,” said the mother-of-two. 

Just like other working mums, WFH mummies may find it useful to adopt other feeding methods such as cup feeding (above), straw or syringe feeding to protect the breastfeeding relationship or when baby rejects the bottle. [Credits: breastfeeding.support]

Flexibility with WFH

For some of the mums we spoke to, having flexibility at work has nonetheless been another benefit of WFH, which bodes well for the future of job opportunities for mothers who want to return to work. Some companies have allowed employees who WFH to be able to work at their own hours. Leona, who is a writer for a family-centric, multi-channel startup, is able to be the default parent at home despite also being employed full-time. “The work arrangement for my company has always been remote working, so I am actually very blessed to be offered this job opportunity that allows me to earn an income while giving me the flexibility to WFH and be there for my children,” said the mother-of-two who is currently direct latching both her children.

“I try to work when my younger boy is napping but when he’s particularly clingy (like now, as I am typing down the answers to this interview), he is either latching and/or sitting on my lap while I work,” said Leona, whose children are 1 and 3 years of age. She also has had to work from her phone sometimes, especially when she has her hands full with the boys at home or when they are out. The family currently has no helper.

Despite the challenges, Leona still prefers to work from home. “I really do enjoy this WFH arrangement with my current job, mainly because it allows me the flexibility and provides me with some sense of work-life balance. And because I WFH, I am still able to be there for my children, and tend to them whenever needed,” she added. 

Some mums find that WFH provides them with flexibility to be with their babies while also being able to expand their careers. [Stock Photo]

Another mother, Cátia, echoes similar sentiments. The mother of 15 week-old twins and a three year-old, is currently working full-time as a manager in the payments industry. She had returned to part-time work when her babies were eight weeks old and gradually returned to full-time work in November, all the while latching her twins and managing the home. “I have been lucky to have amazing managers who are very understanding,” said Cátia, who also faced similar flexibility at work after giving birth to her first child. Due to her flexible working hours, she is able to have a routine where she completes some work in the morning and then tend to her children before completing more rounds of work in between nursing and caring for her babies throughout the day. 

“As a manager I do need to be around for my team but a lot of work can be done out of the common working hours. I wake up early usually with the twins and after feeding them I take that time to do some work while I have breakfast. I try not to look at the clock to feed or work and focus on goals to avoid stress and pressure. I have a list of things I want to complete for the day and I try to keep the babies entertained and feed them when they need,” she added. Fortunately, her heavy burdens at home have eased off a little, as her twin babies are starting infantcare soon. 

“I try not to look at the clock to feed or work and focus on goals to avoid stress and pressure.”

Cátia, WFH mum of 15-week old twins and 3 year old toddler
Mums will need to craft achievable goals in small steps to accomplish in a day to avoid feeling overwhelmed. [Stock Photos]

Blended Work Routines

For some mothers, a blended work routine has worked out well for them. For these mums, being able to be at home on some days has its perks. Lydia Nah, a financial adviser, is able to work at home on Thursdays and Fridays while her one year-old baby is cared for by her husband and in-laws from Monday to Wednesday. “I am still able to latch my baby at the start and end of the day when I work outside,” said Lydia. Her baby currently also takes fresh cow’s milk during the day. 

Beauty of Working From Home

As Lydia needs to meet clients for her work, she recalls how the CB was a saving grace for her as she did not need to pump for her baby then. “If it weren’t for CB, I would be running in and out of various nursing rooms carrying my cooler bag, pump and flanges everywhere. I can’t imagine what a hassle that would be,” said Lydia. She was exclusively latching then, and had to take breaks to nurse her child in between work. “I would be working on my desk and then when it is time for his feed, I’d have a short 15-minute break and out again. While it can be interruptive sometimes, I chose to channel my breaktime during these nursing sessions. It is a great reminder of why I am working so hard everyday day in day out,” she added.

While it is natural that many mothers found it challenging to juggle between work demands and their babies, especially those with no live-in helper or support, a lot of the mothers we spoke to expressed their satisfaction of being able to be with their babies for a significant amount of time. For Fadillah, being able to WFH for over nine months now has made her appreciate being able to see her baby grow. “It’s quite a breeze now,” she added, since she found that she and her baby had adapted well to the routines of WFH. 

WFH with a baby may be challenging at first but can get easier once everyone is familiar with the daily routines. [Stock Photo]

It is also heartwarming and promising to know that many mothers continue to be able to have employment while still providing breastmilk for their babies. Mothers with WFH arrangements also appreciate that they are able to express milk while still conducting lessons or attending meetings and shows that WFH can ease up mummy duties while still allowing mums to multi-task between being mum and employee.

We hope that this will bode well for future employment opportunities for mothers who wish to expand their career while still wanting to nourish and bond with their babies. This pandemic may indeed have led to positive repercussions and transformations of career options and opportunities to allow the harmonising of work opportunities and breastfeeding.

Newsletter #43: Working at Home – An Option for Breastfeeding Mothers

By BMSG Editorial Team

For many of us who are thinking of returning to work after giving birth, childcare is always a concern especially when we have a breastfeeding baby. We speak to one mum, Anne Lee (not her real name), who decided to work from home so that she could direct latch her baby full-time. 

We recognise that this is not an option for everyone. However, if you have some flexibility to do so, this article tells us about the challenges and advantages of working from home with a breastfed baby.


It has been slightly over a year that Anne Lee has been working from home. As a breastfeeding mother, Anne had only decided to work from home after she was almost reaching the end of her Maternity Leave last year when she was contemplating her next move. At that time, she was already 10 years into her job and she felt that she wanted a much-needed change of environment.

Multi-tasking is the reality of working from home and may not be an option for everyone. [Stock Photo]

Concerned about Childcare

The mother of one, who now works in sales and also manages the business’ administrative processes mostly from home, said that a strong motivation for her to work from home was also in part motivated by a miscarriage that she had suffered previously. That experience taught her to change her priorities.

“I decided to focus on my family first,” said Anne, referring to her need to find more time to be with her rainbow baby. She was also at a juncture where she had “no concrete plans” and was willing to change the manner in which she was to be employed. “We all know that with children, plans can change along the way,” said Anne, who then settled by applying for a job that allowed her to be at home.

A lot of mothers choose to work from home so that they can breastfeed on demand. [Stock Photo]

Breastfeeding on Demand

While flexibility may seem to be the main perk of the job, it is breastfeeding on demand and being able to witness her baby’s every milestone that allow her the greatest satisfaction. “We breastfeed on demand and I also allow him to nap at his pace. We don’t follow a schedule,” said Anne. “I also get to see all his firsts: his first steps, his first words. I also appreciate the close bond we have,” she added.

Challenges Abound

It is not always a bed of roses. While Anne has some flexibility to complete her tasks, she sometimes is still required to conduct sales meetings with clients or attend internal huddles with colleagues. She still brings her baby along with her for such situations since she is her baby’s main caregiver. When asked how she copes with baby’s needs, she replied: “Nursing baby in carrier during meetings or when he naps.” Anne also added that since her baby is older now, she also needs to ensure her meetings are in enclosed spaces so that she can monitor her baby while still attending the meetings.

Babywearing can help to save a lot of tears and allows for easy multi-tasking. [Stock Photo]

It is also equally demanding when she is working at home. As her baby is older now, he is also more expressive and may have some meltdowns in the day. “Sometimes I have to manage his tantrums and it gets challenging especially since I am alone at home,” said Anne. Her baby is also more active now and she needs to ensure that his environment is safe. She sometimes has no choice but to multi-task or to delay her work till the wee hours of the morning. If her work gets overwhelming, she may also at times feel too exhausted to play with her child.

 

Night Feedings

On days when she has to complete her work in the early mornings, Anne may sometimes need to pop in and out of her room to feed her baby for night feedings while doing work in her home office. She admits that she sometimes sleeps very late but she will join her son when he wakes up and she will focus her attention on her baby.

Working from home can also be exhausting and she feels that people always assume mothers who work from home have a lot more free time. “I have to learn to multi-task, sometimes ‘triple-task’, to get things done,” said Anne. She also manages some of the household chores and cooks her baby’s meals. Her husband relieves some of the housework when he returns in the evening, either by helping to cook their dinner or manage simple chores such as washing the dishes.

When babies get older and more mobile, mothers working from home may need to adjust their working patterns and routines. [Stock Photo]

Educating Others

Due to her unconventional choice to bring her baby along to meetings, Anne feels that she is educating others about how parenting a child need not limit a parent’s work options. Some of the people she has met for meetings had assumed that she was on leave when she brought her baby in her carrier. “I think it is because I am always with him so he is calm even when I am out. I receive comments that he seems to be an easy baby to care for,” Anne said.

No Looking Back

For Anne, being at home means having full flexibility to exercise her parenting preference of wanting to be with baby during the foundational years of his life. She urges parents to consider the option of working from home if they can afford it. “I am always concerned about who I should entrust my child to. I am most worried about how a caregiver can affect my child’s character or upbringing,” Anne added. She also felt that she is most concerned about her baby turning sick and being at home allowed her to tend to him while still not neglecting her work responsibilities.

“I am always concerned about who I should entrust my child to. I am most worried about how a caregiver can affect my child’s character or upbringing.”

When asked if she would ever consider returning to a full-time job back at the office or some sort of childcare arrangement, Anne emphasised that she is still happiest with what she is going through currently. “I plan to put him in a half-day or full-day playgroup but nothing’s confirmed yet,” said Anne. “I don’t want him to spend all his time in school when he can be at home,” she added. Anne is also concerned about scheduling and feels that a baby has no regular ‘timetable’. “I find working from home very helpful especially since children need parents to be flexible. I don’t believe in putting my baby to sleep at a certain time when they are not ready for it. They will sleep when they want to.”