By Agnes Nemes-Chow, BMSG Volunteer
Photo credits: Agnes-Nemes Chow
Agnes is a stay-at-home mother of seven children aged between 2.5 months and 11 years. Originally from Hungary, Agnes married a Singaporean and has been living in Singapore for 16 years. She and her family stayed briefly in Australia prior to 2011, and returned to Singapore in January that year when she unexpectedly gave birth to a premature baby. The following is her story on how she was thrown into the waters of breastfeeding a premature baby back then.
How it All Began
When we moved back from Australia to Singapore in January 2011, I was then expecting our third child and I didn’t realise that the place where we were living in then was a dengue cluster. I was feeling unwell for a few weeks during my second trimester but I just assumed they were pregnancy symptoms. I only casually mentioned to my gynaecologist that the General Practitioner (GP) I had been seeing had suspected I had dengue. During a growth scan later on, they found that my baby was too small for his gestational age but there was nothing we could do about it at that time. A few days later, at 33 weeks, I went into labour and gave birth to a baby weighing only 1.6 kg baby, but thankfully, he was healthy baby. Our son had to stay in the NICU for almost three weeks till he was able to be fed expressed milk from a bottle.
I had experience in breastfeeding full-term babies but I had no idea about breastfeeding a premature baby. After birth, my baby was taken to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) straight away so I had no chance to breastfeed him. I was wheeled to the maternity ward and I could only see my baby later at night. There was a very kind nurse, who taught me how to express colostrum into a syringe so I kept doing that and it was encouraging to see that after 1-2 mls at the beginning, I could express more and more subsequently.
My baby only took 2 ml of milk for his first feed, but that was all that was needed then. He was fed through a feeding tube. After I was discharged, I was very determined to express as much milk as I could for my baby and we delivered the milk to the hospital every day, sometimes twice a day. In the NICU, the doctors told me that it was very important, especially for a premature baby, to receive breastmilk instead of formula so that he receives all the antibodies to fight infections.
In the NICU, the doctors told me that it was very important, especially for a premature baby, to receive breastmilk instead of formula so that he receives all the antibodies to fight infections.
Some of the doctors also encouraged me to keep trying to breastfeed, so I did. Others told me that such small babies may not end up breastfeeding so the advice was conflicting. My baby never seemed to show any interest in breastfeeding in the initial days when I tried to feed him and I didn’t receive any practical help from the medical personnel. I think the problem was that I was unsure about when he had already been given EBM so when I was allowed to hold him, he was not hungry. The main concern was for him to gain weight and we were told that he could be discharged when he reached two kilograms and was able to drink from a bottle.
The Importance of Support
When he was transferred to the nursery, I asked if it was possible for me to try breastfeeding and they allowed me to try. I made sure that I was there for many hours so that I didn’t miss the feeding times this time around. My baby’s weight was already 2 kilos then but his mouth was still tiny and he struggled to latch and got tired and fell asleep very easily. My husband was my greatest support at that time. He wanted me to spend as much time in the hospital as possible so that I could keep trying to breastfeed my baby. He thought it was the critical time to establish breastfeeding and he was right!
After 3 weeks in the hospital, we finally got to bring our baby home! The older two children were 3.5 years and 20 months old then. I had to continue expressing milk at home. My routine was to wake my baby up (as he tended to sleep throughout the whole day), breastfeed, give expressed milk from a bottle and then pump for each feed. It was very tiring for me and my older kids were especially needy as I was previously away from them so much when I had to go to the hospital. When my 1.5 years old son, who could already drink from a cup, saw the bottle, he also asked me to give him milk from a bottle! It was total chaos at home those days. At that stage, my baby was only taking a small amount through direct latch and drank a good amount from the bottle. As the days passed, I noticed he was drinking less and less from the bottle and that was a sign to me that he was able to get more from the breast. After about two weeks, when he wasn’t really drinking much from the bottle anymore, I did away with it and we just continued with direct latch. Finally, my life got easier!
Advice for Parents
From my experience, I believe that it is important to inform the hospital staff that you want to breastfeed your baby and to coordinate the feeding times so that the baby is hungry enough at the time you want to try latching baby. Even if the baby seems too small and weak to feed, through skin-to-skin contact (kangaroo care), the baby can be encouraged to be near the breast. Mums must make sure they express milk at least every three hours, not only to provide milk for the baby but also to establish a good supply so that when the baby can direct latch, there will be plenty of milk available. It is important to spend as much time as possible in the hospital to give kangaroo care to the baby and to keep on trying to breastfeed. It’s a good idea, too, to also ask for help from a lactation consultant.
Breastfeeding a premature baby is very challenging but with good support and perseverance, it is definitely possible. It’s important to start to direct latch the baby as soon as possible and not to give up even if it doesn’t work at the beginning. They will grow and get stronger faster and will be able to latch eventually. If the baby is discharged on bottle-feeding, it’s important to always latch the baby first for each feed and only give expressed milk as a top-up. This way, the bottle can be removed after a while and the baby can be directly breastfed.
Notes for Parents with Premature Infants
- Ask questions! Don’t be afraid of the medical personnel as they are really there to help you and your baby
- Offer your baby donor milk such as from the KKH Milk Bank.
- As soon as baby has been admitted to the nursery and separated from you, ask for a hospital-grade breast pump so that you can start stimulating your breast milk supply! It is recommended that this happens within the first three hours after birth.
- Hand express colostrum into cups or syringes so that baby can be fed with these precious drops. Colostrum is an extremely potent source of antibodies and no single drop should be wasted!
- Get help from the hospital lactation nurses and lactation consultants.
- Kangaroo care and spending lots of time skin-to-skin with your baby helps you reconnect with your baby! Grab every opportunity to bond with your baby! Studies show that skin to skin is a great way to kickstart milk production. Mothers who pump beside their babies tend to yield more milk.